Parents Need a Break Too

Your kids get a nice break from their routines when school is out, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take a break, too. Sure, you probably don’t get as much time off as your kids or even as much time as you would like, but it’s important for parents to take a break from their routine too.

While you might not get three months off work, appreciate the time you do have. It may be that your vacation consists of long weekends camping in the nearby mountains.tent

Or perhaps you get a week or two away. Even if you can’t travel, you can still enjoy a “stay-cation” and enjoy local parks or museums that just never seem to fit into your normal schedule.

Some parents love to work so much that they don’t want to take a vacation. Others think they’re indispensable to their employers or perhaps even quietly fear that if they go away, their boss will figure they’re expendable.

Remember the saying “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy?” This is true for adults and kids. Taking a break and have some fun is good for your mind and spirit. It can help you be a better parent, a better employee, and even a better and happier human being.

Think about different options for a break. What sounds good to you? Does your spirit cry out for a break away from the day to day cares? Perhaps you’d love a little quiet time at the shore. Are you stuck indoors most of the time? Maybe a river rafting adventure is just the right ticket.

Be willing to try something new. Allow your mind and spirit to be stimulated and to break out of the rut you might be in. Give your mind and body time to recharge and to get rebalanced.

Talk to your kids about a break for the entire family, but be sure to include your desires in the plan. So often, parents put their needs last. Remember, this is your break, too.  You and your family won’t experience all the benefits of a vacation if your needs aren’t being met and you’re just going along with the ride.

If your kids want to go camping and what you want is a trip to an art museum, see if there is a way you can have both. This can broaden the horizons of every member of your family and teach a lesson in standing up for yourself.

Your family might actually decide that you have plenty of together time at home and you would each prefer to spend a few days or a week on a special passion.  If you son wants to attend theater camp and your daughter wants to go to soccer camp, then what’s to stop you from having your own camp experience?

What may be the perfect vacation for one family is potentially sheer torture for yours. Don’t let other people tell you what you should do for your break(s). Pay attention to the messages you’re getting from your Internal Guidance System (IGS) and you’ll discover the right solution for your family. Take a little time off — you deserve it. You’ll come back refreshed and glad you did.

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Raising Lucky Kids

fortune keyIt seems like some people are born lucky while others constantly have a dark cloud swirling overhead. How does a parent help ensure that their children have that lucky star? Luck is largely a result of one’s attitude and fortunately, that’s something that you can change.

Tom Brokaw is an example of a person who’s led a charmed life, but that’s not to say that his life has been without challenges.

In August of 2013, he was diagnosed with cancer, but at 75 years old, he’s had so many ups than downs that even his friends refer to his luck as “Brokaw’s lucky star.”

Being born in the right family at the right time is a big help when it comes to finding success in life, but luck goes beyond your circumstances. Brokaw offers tips that you can use to improve your luck and raise your own kids under their own lucky stars.

Mistakes

Everyone makes them. Lucky people learn from their mistakes and sometimes being lucky means recognizing the mistake early on so you can minimize the consequences. Other times, being lucky means getting a message from someone you care about and heeding it. And then there’s the matter of just learning a lesson from the mistake itself. In that sense, there are no mistakes because you might have needed that hiccup in order to learn something that’ll lead to your later success.

As a parent, you may want to keep your kids from making mistakes when in turn, that may be your biggest mistake yet. When you love your kids with their mistakes and all, they feel safer and are better equipped to live their lives to the fullest.

Opportunity

Brokaw admits that some of his luck came because he took advantage of opportunities when they arose. By listening to his Internal Guidance System (IGS), he was able to take on new challenges with confidence even when he didn’t think he wanted to make a move. This brought him to be in Berlin at the fall of the Berlin Wall, which was a high point in his career.

Teach your kids to tap into their IGS so they can recognize great opportunities. When you go with the Universal flow, you’re more likely to have an abundance of luck. As the Roman philosopher Seneca said, “Luck is when preparation meets opportunity.”

Attitude

By keeping a positive attitude, you can create your own luck. You’re open to opportunities and experiences when you face the day looking up rather than down. Feeling confident that you can handle any situation allows for many adventures.

Raise your kids to try a variety of things. Show them to take some risks – start small and build their confidence while they tap into their IGS to steer them towards what they want and away from what they don’t want. This builds up their positive attitude “muscle.”

Pay attention as you teach your kids to make their own luck. Let go of the idea of perfection — people aren’t perfect. Let yourself make mistakes every now and then, but learn from them. Notice the opportunities that come your way and keep your own attitude up. While you’re raising lucky kids, you may just notice your own lucky star shining brightly in the sky as well.

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Stop Thinking about the How and Focus On Feeling Why

hand with soccer ballIn Western culture, there’s a lot of emphasis placed on thinking and doing. Other cultures recognize the importance of feelings in place of those things.

Your Internal Guidance System (IGS) helps you register how you feel about any given topic, person, or event.

When you’re in touch with your feelings, then we can “feel out” the right action for you to take.

There’s nothing wrong with being an analytical, thought-filled person.

The world needs people who can think through various situations and problems. The problem occurs when you rely solely on your thinking.

One of the best lessons you can give your kids is to teach them to stop thinking so much about how to do things.

Instead, you should all spend more time focusing on how you feel about why you’re doing these things.

The most successful people have strong emotionally reasons behind why they’re acting. It’s these feelings that give them the strength to carry on when the going gets tough.

The saying may be “when the going gets tough, the tough get going,” but if you don’t know WHY you’re going, it’s a lot easier to give up. A better saying would then be “when the going gets tough, those in touch get going.”

Sure, there are some things that you’ll do “just because.” Some of your actions are habits; you do them without really thinking about them. Other habits may still require some thought, but you do them because you were taught to.

People tend to brush their teeth at least once or twice a day. Some people brush their teeth because they don’t want cavities. Most people really brush because that’s what their parents taught them to do. You might not have any strong feelings about the act at all, but it’s so deeply ingrained into your life that you feel funny if you don’t brush.

Other activities require more thought and commitment than brushing your teeth. Whether it’s studying, playing sports, or practicing a musical instrument, there are specific actions that you have to do in order to achieve the result.

In the beginning, these skills take most people a lot of concentrated effort and a lot of thought. They think about where their foot should hit the ball, how to hold their hands over the keyboard, what it feels like to sing from their diaphragm, etc.

With time and practice, it’s possible think less about the individual skills and you can string them together. Individual notes become a scale and then a song. You can run and kick the ball, passing it to teammates and scoring goals.

To truly master a skill and be successful at it, you have to learn to stop thinking about it quite so much.

You have to pay attention to how it feels and why you’re doing it. When you’re doing things because they’re what you feel driven to do, then you’re living your authentic life. When you do things without that feeling, you might still be able to do them well, but it’ll never be as satisfying and fulfilling as doing something you feel passionate about.

If you find that your life is filled with tasks rather than experiences that you’re fulfilled by doing, use your Internal Guidance System to help figure out how you can either modify your actions or change your course entirely.

If you find yourself doing something by rote, take a moment to see how you feel about the activity. Certainly there will be things that you have to do in your life that aren’t your favorite activities, but when you focus on why you’re doing them and that feeling, even the most mundane tasks can be positive experiences.

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Our Feelings Not Actions Determine End Result

goal chart with armMany people who don’t believe in the Law of Attraction point out that we must take action in order to accomplish our goals. They seem to be under the misimpression that as believers in the Law of Attraction we are actually coaching people to only meditate or repeat affirmations and expect their heart’s desires to happily land on their doorstep. With a bow on top, to boot!

Of course actions are needed at times in order to get results. But the action without the appropriate feeling will not yield the desired outcome.

“Life is a journey, not a destination.” 

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Some people will interpret this famous quote to mean that it is the steps you take that are important.

Yet, the journey itself includes not only the path(s) we have chosen during our lifetime, it also includes all the feelings that went into our making those choices. It is actually how we feel about the process, not the specific steps that we take, which really determine our end result.

If you think that the destination is achieving one of your big goals, then you are missing the point.

We all have lots of goals during our lifetime. Our journey doesn’t end when we successfully reach them. Sometimes we don’t even seem to have time to celebrate our accomplishments because we have created newer, bigger goals that we are now striving for.

This is what life is about, moving along a path. We can create the path ourselves, or we can choose to follow a path that someone else has blazed before us. Either way, it is up to us to follow a path and live in the moment. That is what the “journey” is — living in the moment.

If we are so absorbed with achieving a specific goal, we may miss the fork in the road that will bring us extreme happiness. If we set hard and fast deadlines where we will have accomplished our task we may lose out the most important part of the creation—the fun of it!

One of my big goals was to write my book “The Art of Blissful Parenting.” For a while I allowed self-imposed deadlines to create stress in my life and take away the fun of creating. That is when I had to remind myself to check in with my IGS so I could again enjoy the process.

When we allow our Internal Guidance System (IGS) to help us determine our path, the correct way will unfold more easily before us. Some people actually enjoy bush-whacking, forging a brand new trail through hard work and determination. Others prefer to create a unique path by selecting various meandering branches along the way. Still others practically fly along the path because for them speed is the thing. They want to see more and more progress.

It doesn’t matter what type of traveler you are, as long as you are following your heart and IGS. You may even find that you move back and forth from bush-whacker to flyer to meanderer. For a few moments, or even years, you may relish one sort of challenge only to find that later those challenges have no appeal at all.

Pay more attention to how you are feeling while you are on the path than how the path is being created. If you suddenly feel like you need more time, take it. If you have a sudden urge to skip over large parts of the trail or take a short cut “through the brush” then do that.

Our success as individuals is not measured by achieving of goals, accumulation of wealth, or by crossing the finish line first. Our real success is measured by the joy we have felt while we are on the trip.

When you truly feel good about your trip, you will find that your tasks become easier. I certainly have found that when writing my book. When I tried to force it, in order to meet a deadline, I found that it was difficult and others were not relating to the result. When I relaxed and appreciated the creative process, the words flowed.

I started to feel good again about taking the steps that I was inspired to take, but to let the timetable fall away. The end result is a wonderful book that I am very proud of. The bow on top of this end result is that I have memories of a pleasant, fun-filled experience as I move on to the next part of my journey.

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When Applying the Law of Attraction, Are Details Important?

When people are learning to apply the Law of Attraction, they want to be sure they get it “right” and worry so much about the process that they actually miss the point. You need to pay attention to how you’re feeling rather than ticking off a specific list of items. man in front of success chart

It’s your emotional energy that goes out into the Universe and brings back the experiences that match your vibration.

This doesn’t mean that details are never important. It’s just that so often that people get bogged down in the details that they forget about the energy behind them.

Let’s say you want a new house, for example.

You can spend hours looking at other homes, making a list of all the attributes that you want your new house to have, and even create a vision board with pictures of wonderful homes.

Yet you appear to be no closer to your dream home than before. Why is that?

Of course you need to spend some time gathering data, but are you gathering the right data? Are you merely creating a list of architectural details that don’t actually resonate with you and the way your family lives?

Be sure to spend time thinking about what’s important to you in a home. Let every family member contribute to your list. You may be surprised at some of the items that are crucial to your kids or even your spouse.

This list then becomes your “important details.” Look it over and review it with your family members every day. Now you can create your dream board and focus your collective energies on the house you have emotionally built.

Do you remember the movie, Miracle on 34th Street with Natalie Wood as the little girl, Susan? Susan wanted to live in a house rather than their apartment in the city. She even found a picture of the house and looked at it every night. She was focused. She didn’t look at other houses; just the one she wanted. She knew what it felt like to live in that house.

Then one day when she and her family were out for a drive, they took a wrong turn. Of course that led to the family driving right by Susan’s dream house, which just happened to be for sale. This may have been a Hollywood movie, but it really is how the Law of Attraction can work in your life. You never know when the wrong turn will be exactly what you need in order to fulfill your dreams.

Don’t get bogged down in the details that don’t really matter to you and focus on the ones that bring you the feeling you want.

Granite countertops may look beautiful and be the current style, but maybe what you really want is to feel like you’re part of the family activities when you’re in the kitchen. In that case, your dream house may have dated counters, but an open floor plan that allows you to help the kids with their homework as you make dinner.

Whether you’re looking for a new house, a car, a job, or a new love interest, you can apply this same principle. Yes, details matter. Just make sure they’re details that are important to you, emotionally, instead of a laundry list of items that might just be nice to have.

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Law of Attraction at Work: I’ll Have What She’s Having

When you notice people around you are having things that you would like to have, feel what it would be like to also have it. Then get the Law of Attraction to work for you, and put in your order to the Universe and say, “I’ll have what she’s having!”  Image

In the 1989 movie When Harry Met Sally, these words are delivered as a punch line in response to Meg Ryan’s characters faking an orgasm in the middle of Katz’s Delicatessen.

The entire movie is an example of the LOA at work from the beginning.

Rob Reiner had envisioned many other actors for the role now-famous female lead. His list was a veritable who’s-who in Hollywood at the time.

Meg Ryan, who was a newcomer, was not on the list, but she wanted the part, saw herself in the role, and convinced the director to give it to her.

That iconic scene was not originally in the script. Ryan and her co-star Billy Crystal were instrumental in developing the scene. If another actor had been given her part, we might never have had that magical movie moment. That scene has gone on to become one of the most memorable in movie history.

The success of the film, which launched Ryan’s career, was due largely in part to the fact that Ryan knew what she wanted and went for it.

As good as this lesson is, not everything about the scene is an accurate portrayal of the Law of Attraction. Where the movie got it wrong was that the woman delivering the “I’ll have…” line was clearly wistful, and not of the belief that she could actually have the joyful experience.

When you feel jealousy, envy, or even wistfulness over someone else’s success, achievements, or joy, you are putting separation from yourself and that thing you say you want. This is true whether what you want is a relationship, a job, a big house, etc.

This separation means your energy is not in alignment with what you are observing, so you will not attract it to you. As you feel that you do not now have something, cannot have it, or do not deserve to have it, you will actually attract not having it.

If you truly want to have what she’s having, you must be more like Meg Ryan and her character, Sally Albright. Know what you want. Be willing to feel what it feels like to have it before you actually experience it — even if it means faking it.

Order up and be ready to receive.

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Overcome Emotional Manipulation Using the Law of Attraction

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You are bombarded every day with messages that are intended to persuade you to take specific actions. These messages may come from your family members or employers, but many more come from advertisers who are intent on manipulating your emotions. 

Fortunately, you can learn to use the Law of Attraction to trump their best efforts and make decisions that are best for you.

Advertisers generally do not have any malicious intent. They merely want to convince you to buy whatever it is they are selling.

Sometimes this is just a product that they want you to spend your money and time on. Other people are selling ideas that they want you to believe or buy into.

If you ever watch television, listen to the radio, or read the newspaper, then you know what I’m talking about. There are advertisements designed to tug at your heartstrings, encouraging you to buy a greeting card for someone special or to put on a specific type of aromatic coffee so you can have a family bonding experience.

Infomercials demonstrate gizmos that solve a problem you didn’t know you had – they want you to believe you can’t live without the gizmo in question. You learn about ways to make money, classes to keep your family safe, tests to take to make sure you have not contracted the latest virus; the list goes on and on.

Rather than allowing your emotions be swept to and fro like a badminton birdie, you can learn to trust your Internal Guidance System so you make the best decisions for yourself. Taking a few minutes every day to send out positive affirmations can also work wonders to keep you healthy, happy, and independent — no matter how hard the advertisers work at their job.

Awareness is the first step to making changes in your life. First, you need to become aware of what you are feeling. Pay attention to how you feel when you are watching commercials. Advertisers spend a lot of time and money learning about human psychology. They are trying to get a reaction and generally have pretty good methods on how to get the reaction necessary.

Most people merely react to their feelings without making a conscious choice. Often they are not even aware of why they are reacting. They aren’t aware of the feelings or the manipulation. By being aware of the feeling, you then have the power to choose how to act.

There is nothing wrong with being reminded to thank a parent or teacher for something they have done for you, but do it because you want to. Do it in a way that you want to, not merely because a commercial brought a tear to your eye or a lump to your throat.

Once you develop the habit of being aware of your feelings, you will be able to see and overcome the efforts to manipulate your behavior. Now you are in the driver’s seat and you can start to think about what you want and you can consciously create the life of your dreams.

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Applying the Law of Attraction to Retrain Your Brain

ImageEveryone understands the concept of training your body for sports and activities, but it’s easy to forget that you can also train our brains to get it into peak performance. If you don’t physically exercise, your body will not retain its tone. Similarly, if you don’t use your mental “muscle,” then it will not operate at its best either.  

No matter what kind of athletic ability people possess, anyone can change their fitness level and skill set by changing their exercise routine.

 A runner with years of practice who is fantastic on the track may not do well at cross-country running. They will need to adapt their workout routine if they decide to become a marathoner, or a tri-athlete.

You have also trained your brain to think and respond in specific ways. That training has taken place over your entire lifetime — training you have received from your parents, your teachers, your friends, and your various jobs.

Just as the runner can modify their exercise routine, you can also modify your thinking and retrain your brain using Law of Attraction tools.

You won’t have to join a gym to retrain your brain, but you will need to make a commitment and put in some effort. If you do, you will begin to see changes in your life, and so will others.

Don’t be surprised if people begin to ask what you are doing differently. They will notice changes are occurring in the way you present yourself and in events that are happening in your life.

Affirmations are one tool that many people are familiar with. Positive affirmations are like barbells; simple tools on the surface, but they have a powerful impact on your life when used properly.

Barbells give the best results with small weights lifted repeatedly over time. Lifting a barbell once a day or once in a while will not yield results. Trying to lift a barbell that is too heavy will not give you the strength you are looking for because you will either get frustrated or even injure yourself.

Selecting the correct weight, one that you can lift multiple times per session without getting overly fatigued, is crucial to successfully using barbells for physical fitness.

Think of affirmations in the same way. You will need to repeat your affirmations many times throughout the day, every day.

Consider the “weight” of your affirmation. Can you “lift” it with confidence or is it too heavy? Affirmations can grow as you do, so start with small phrases that build you up as your confidence and abilities increase.

The former couch potato used to have to drag themselves off the sofa to go for a run, but now with practice and determination, they are running marathons. Just as a physical body will adjust to exercise, your brain will adjust to your mental retraining. With repetition, the affirmations will become easier to say.  Your confidence and manifestation skills will grow and you will be truly running your life.

 

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Managing Negativity with the Law of Attraction

Negative energy can cause high levels of stress. The Law of Attraction states that positive energy attracts a positive outcome, but we shouldn’t forget the second part of this equation – negative energy. Image

There will always be negative energy and it will always attract an unwanted outcome.  

People with an excess amount of negative energy in their lives will never truly succeed, nor will they ever be happy until they make a new choice.

It is not until you rid yourself of this negative energy that you will be able to fully move ahead.

Negative energy can bring about all types of negative outcomes. These may be small, such as receiving a bill in the mail instead of a check or missing out on a sale you wanted to make.

They could also be large, important things, such as  succumbing to a dire illness, being denied a home loan, or not being able to keep a job.

You may have noticed that people who carry a sour outlook on life never seem to catch a break. This is because they have been feeling sorry for themselves, believing that nothing good can ever happen to them, and generally keeping a negative outlook on life which holds them in this place. If these downtrodden people only changed their outlook on life, they could then turn their lives around completely.

Let’s look at a few quick examples:  What you believe is what you create.

  • If a person believes that they will not be qualified for a home loan, they will not be. If they change their thoughts so that they believe they will be qualified, they will be.
  • If a person looks at an envelope and believes a bill is inside, a bill will be. If they instead think it is a check, they will receive a check.

Yet if negative energy already exists in your life, how are you to change your mind?

The task may sound difficult or even impossible. Yet, in reality, it is so incredibly simple there is no reason to put it off. In order to eliminate the negativity in your life, all you have to do is think positively by focusing on things that bring you pleasure and focusing on your desires, eagerly anticipating them.

While it may require a bit of self-discipline and certainly practice, if you have not been living your life in a positive manner thus far, it is definitely possible to turn your life around.  When you feel yourself going into a negative spiral, do something you enjoy, eat something you like, or simply listen to some upbeat music. You’ll be amazed at how much more positive you feel!

How to Use the Universal Law of Attraction

The Universal Law of Attraction works in everyone’s life whether or not you are aware of it. Every thought you have attracts a similar thought or event into your life.  When you intentionally focus on positive thoughts, you will attract actions, events and people that are positive. Image

And if you are always having negative thoughts, you will attract negative things into your life as well.

The Universal Law of Attraction is both powerful and simple to include in your daily routines intentionally.

You only need to do three simple things everyday:  Ask for what you want, believe you can manifest what you really want and receive the things that come into your life with gratitude. Accept these things whether they are positive or negative things because all things move us closer to what we truly want for our lives.

When you decide to actively apply the law of attraction in your life, it does not take years of study. It actually takes only minutes a day. Perhaps begin or end your day with a few minutes of meditation. The important thing is to set aside dedicated time and a dedicated space in which to meditate that is calming, relaxing and comfortable.  During this time, relax your mind and focus on holding a positive thought.

The next step is to think about what you really want for your life. Be as specific and clear as possible because you are sending this thought out into the universe.  Sometimes it helps to think about things you don’t want in order to clarify what it is you really do want.

After you really know what you want to attract into your life, try drawing, painting or cutting out pictures that illustrate what it is you want in your life.  See the thing you want as already being yours.  Ask the universe for what you want and send the picture with your request by keeping it in a place where you see it all the time.

Focus on feelings. Even if you have yet to manifest what you really want in your life, it is important to feel, speak, think and act as if you already have it.  This is the single most important and powerful step in applying the Universal Law of Attraction.

Take time to notice the positive things in your life and be grateful for at least one thing every day.  As new things are attracted, make sure to express your gratitude.  When we give thanks and show gratitude for everything the universe gives us, we attract more of the same.

This in turn, motivates the universe to send you even more wonderful things.  It is like putting your request out to the universe on turbo-power.

Finally, trust the universe to bring you what you really want. Don’t look for what you asked for. Instead, simply trust that you will receive what you have requested. When we look for the things we ask for, it is like admitting we don’t already have it. That changes our focus from positive to negative and only attracts more of “not having what we want.”